Change Your Perspective, Change Your Life

“You will always define events in a manner which will validate your agreement
with reality.” ― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

I went for a walk yesterday morning and saw a beautiful yellow bird that had flown into a walkway with open airways adjacent to one window with glass. The bird was exhausted and mournfully chirping with desperation trying to find a way to the blue sky beyond, while looking out the glass window pane, flying up the skylight above, and back down to the window ledge, not knowing that to either side of the glass window, there were wide openings that would enable the bird to fly free.

I tried to help the bird, but my attempts only caused further panic, so I left the bird alone and continued on my walk, trusting that eventually they would fly left or right and discover the freedom that had always been available to them. (If you’re wondering why I refer to the bird as ‘they’ read Robin Wall Kimmerer’s exquisite book Braiding Sweetgrass).

My encounter with this bird’s perceived sorrowful plight got me thinking about my own life, and the lives of my clients, friends and family members. When we look through a particular belief or “filter” that tells us we’re stuck, that we’re going to fail, that we’re not (fill in the blank enough) it’s easy to believe that we’re seeing REALITY. Yet, if we only took the time to look left or right (or up or down) we would soon discover that we’re limiting ourselves to the dismal perspective we’re choosing.

There are a plethora of perspectives available.

Choose Wisely

Your reality is based on the thoughts, beliefs and perspectives you have about yourself, other people, and the world around you. If your “reality” isn’t offering the results you desire, shift your perspective so that you can craft a life that you love.

here are some tips to do that

1. Know that your perspective isn’t necessarily “reality.” In fact, I studied neuroscience in my undergraduate Communication degree, and I learned that your brain creates your reality based on your beliefs, most of which were inherited from parents, family, sociocultural institutions, culture, or other authority figures, which informs your self-identity and worldview.

2. To change your reality, you must change your thoughts and beliefs (something I focus on heavily in my work with clients).

Reality isn’t fixed. It’s malleable.

Did you know that reality is based on quantum physics, and that “reality” morphs based on our perspective and what we expect to be true? This is why two different people can have two vastly different realities. And both are true!
Check out one of Joe Dispenza’s videos on this.

Most people enter therapy because something in their life isn’t working. Quite often, it’s because the reality they hold about who they are isn’t aligned with the truth.
They desire to feel happy, safe, loved and experience a sense of belonging, to live a deeply meaningful life filled with purpose, and thrive in their relationships, health, career, and finances.

Yet, they struggle instead of thriving because they usually (almost always) hold a distorted perspective about who they are (and who they are not), what they’re capable of, how smart, intelligent, creative, or capable and competent they are based on the beliefs imprinted upon them by others.

Without exception, they (sometimes deep down) believe they’re unworthy, incompetent, too old, too young, not smart enough, educated enough, not (fill in the blank) enough.

Yet, nothing could be further than the truth.

I have supported thousands of people to heal and reclaim their voice, worthiness, personal power, and sense of safety, ease and well-being over the last 25 years, and I have never (not even once) encountered someone who wasn’t absolutely magnificent.

And no, you’re not the exception.

If you truly want to feel safe, loved, and that you belong, deeply yearn to experience an embodied knowing that you matter, that you’re worthy, creative, talented, enough, it’s imperative that you update your perspective of who you are.

How do I do change my perspective of myself? I mean, I’m inside my life.
How do I perceive myself differently than I already do?

I’m so glad you asked!

10 Powerful (Life Transforming) Ways to Change Your Perspective

1. Instead of your usual perspective (i.e. what you tell yourself about yourself and to others), STOP. Ask yourself “what are 3 different ways I might (see or perceive or experience) myself differently?” For example, if you normally joke offhandedly that you’re scatterbrained, stop it. Instead, carefully consider whether that’s really true. If not, update your perspective. Alternatively, if you believe that you’re never going to succeed, guess what? You’re creating that reality. Consider carefully whether this is the reality you want. If not, choose a perspective that supports success.

2. Choose to be fully present. It’s challenging to think or believe things that aren’t true when you’re paying attention.

3. If your normal narrative doesn’t support the reality you desire, choose differently.

4. Stop speaking negatively about yourself (inside your head and out loud).

5. Journal about the issues that are causing distress and ask yourself what meaning you make about the reality you hold about yourself. Does the meaning you assign to your perspective about yourself your life offer you well-being, peace, clarity, joy and aliveness? If so, keep it! If not, consider choosing a perspective that supports the reality you desire.

6. Spend time in nature. The natural world reflects our true selves back to us.

7. Breathe deeply. It’s nearly impossible to change your perspective when you’re stuck in sympathetic arousal (fight or flight). Deep slow calming breaths signal calm, peace and relaxation to your nervous system, which supports neuroplasticity (changing your brain and nervous system to perceive differently).

8. Spend less time on social media. Seriously. If your time is consumed with social media, your reality (and joy factor) is negatively influenced.

9. Make a commitment to stay in therapy until the reality you see manifested in the world around you matches the magnificence of who you truly are.

10. Incorporate essential oils. Below is an essential oil that I absolutely adore that supports anxiety relief, nervous system regulation, brain hemisphere integration, and alleviation of fascial tension.

Powerful Tip To Calm Worry & Anxiety, Bring You Into Present Moment, & Open the Third Eye (6th Chakra), Activating Intuitive Insight, and Supporting You to Shift Your Perspective with Ease

Place 1 drop of Bergamot essential oil (diluted to 25%) on your index finger and place finger with a very light touch over the 3rd eye, or Yin Tang acupuncture point, also known as the Hall of Impression, which is associated with inner sight and vision. Hold this point lightly for 1-3 minutes with your eyes closed and breathe deeply.

Bergamot is a powerful essential oil that supports bringing your attention fully into the present moment, supports calming of worry and anxiety, and powerfully activates intuition by opening the third eye (6th chakra), which positively alters your ability to perceive the truth about any particular situation (including seeing yourself accurately).
My Aroma Point Mastery teacher, Tiffany Carole, dubs Bergamot as “Creator of Equilibrium, Bringer of Balance, Bringer of Light.” Doesn’t that sound yummy?

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